I saw this tweet from a guy on Twitter today. 🥰
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“My dad died when I was 8. Every week a few of the dads on my hockey team would offer to tie my skates. Not in a big showy way, in a quiet kind way.
They filled the gap. Find a way to fill the gap for someone. It'll make you both better”.
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When we have issues in our own lives that are chronic they can take up a great deal of space in our minds. For some it becomes obsessive it gets to the point where they really can’t think about anything else.
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Fear of illness
Losing weight
Problems at work
Finding a partner
Fixing a troubled kid
Making more money
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The issue becomes all consuming and it is part of almost every thought they have. So much so they are oblivious to what goes on around them. They aren’t seeing opportunities around them that would be fulfilling because they are so focused on what they think they want “fixed”.
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We Definitely want to take the actions toward the outcomes we want. Make a plan and decide what those actions are then commit to them daily.
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Create a lifestyle that facilitates health and leave the worry behind. Know that you are doing what facilitates health.
Trust that living a healthy lifestyle and putting yourself in those environments will bring you the partner you want when it’s time.
Accept that the best thing you can do to help someone you love is model the behavior you want to see in them.
Put in the infrastructure that produces income work it and practice patience for increase.
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Obsessing over your issues will only lead to missed opportunities. We almost never accurately predict how what we want will come to us. When we think we do it just limits our choices and steers us into controlling the outcome. That never works out!
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Instead put in the action and then watch for ways to fill the gap for people around you. You’ll be amazed at how much better you feel and even more amazed with how you get what you really want.